I don’t know how to begin this, I have said this to a few friends before but I guess it’s about time to put it down on paper. Virtual paper, that is :))
I hope I can express it the way I want to. And I will do my best to put coherence. But I think I cannot. Forgive my redundance.
Fashion is one word that could mean different things, to different people. …just like any word.
To some it might seem trivial, useless, plain vanity, and whatever. But to others, it could have so much importance. It is noble, it is beyond what people usually think.
Thing is, we have different passions and interests; we have different opinions.
————-You can tell us, better are the people who just wear simple things, slippers, and just plain clothes because clothes don’t dictate who you are. Well, dearies, true. Clothes don’t define you wholly as a person, but it doesn’t make dressing up bad. But truth is, no one is necessarily “better than the other” between a simple person and a really-fashion-obsessed one. It’s just that we have different interests. You don’t necessarily have to be the same in the way you dress to be together. I have friends who prefer jeans-and-shirts on a daily basis, but we do get along.
Truth is, in my case, I haven’t met a fashionista yet who criticizes people who prefer shorts/jeans + shirts/tanks + slippers; but I have already met ‘simple’ people who hate the beyond-the-norms and different styles, or in short fashion enthusiasts. Huhhhhh? There is no need for this. I mean,
- you can voice out your opinion, just for expression, but you can’t dictate what people would wear (there is a difference between advising and dictating, guys) except if you have authority (i.e., dress codes in school and places and events and affiliations, etcetera)
- you can also be annoyed. Your eyes, as human beings’ can be offended, but don’t hate. Because I met some people who want bloggers to die, or at least, want their clothes to be burned. C’mon, is this hate or crab mentality?
————-Simplicity is subjective, too. (Credits to author Ptr. Ed Lapiz for this concept) In terms of fashion, what could people perceive as an overdressed outfit could just be underdressed to fashion enthusiasts. Fashion is subjective. Again, respetohan na lang kasi. When I wear somewhat corporate-or-MOA-ish outfit which I just find simple, people who don’t know me that much will ask me
"bakit ka nakaporma?/ why are you dressed up?" (because if they know me, like if they see me everyday ever since, they won’t ask me)
then I’ll tell "Haaaa??? Ang simple ko na nga ee./Whaaat? This is simple for me."
They will answer, "Kung simple ka sa lagay na yan, ano tingin mo sakin, basura? / If you’re simple that way, then what do you think of us, garbage?"
Noooooo. I respect you guys, it’s just that we have different standards, and we can’t impose it to people. (Again, with the exception of authority at times :/ )
I don’t really get this. Friends should respect personalities. People are beyond clothing, go look at the soul. Hindi porket maarte, vain, eh hindi na friend-worthy, they can be the people you can rely on for a lifetime.
————-A person who saves up for books, or other sensible things, doesn’t have the right to claim that, oh, I am better than those who are saving up for “materialistic” things such as clothes, or maybe dolls for others, or collectible toys. Different things make us happy. We have our different ways of expression, too. You can’t hate the persons who love the things you ignore. We’re not doing anything against you, right? Stop visiting the sites you find annoying, then. Stop roaming in lookbook and do your eyes a favor.
————-Fashion is not something to pursue just to solely seek attention (because fashionistas, admit it, we always faced that judgment) again, it is a PASSION, a hobby, a nature for some. And it’s definitely not a crime.
————-There is nothing wrong with being attached to clothes and vain things, so long as you don’t “worship it” or make it your Lord and you still put it in the right place; so long as you don’t sin because of it, i.e. having debts here and there because of your obsession to clothes, especially branded ones, or it makes you steal, or it makes you love material more than the people in your life (hello, this is freaking wrong but I think these are just rare cases); so long as you don’t feel bad about yourself because instead of fashion becoming an inspiration, it becomes an avenue for insecurities. So long as you are not stepping on anyone, go do and wear what you want. (Just like John Stewart Mill’s harm principle)
Of course there are limitations, but limitations themselves are subjective to each of us, and we have to respect others’ points, too. We can express our opinions. That’s good. But just advise, don’t impose.
————-Fashion, despite being senseless to others, well, to some of us, fashion is our favorite form of art. ”What to wear” is one of the artistic things to look forward to, everyday. You don’t have to wait for legit occassions, while of course it doesn’t mean you will wear gowns to classes, but you do get the point. And just like you, who have your own passions which we respect, we have our passions as well, and that includes fashion.
In short, when you tell a fashion enthusiast to stop dressing up, taking pictures of it, and blogging it—which is our platform of expression and inspiration for our love for style—or lookbooking it,
it’s like you question and stop a singer from vocalizing,
an athlete from training everyday,
a dancer from warming up,
a speaker from practicing speeches, and so on.
To us fashion enthusiasts, dressing up is not just kaartehan, it’s one of the steps closer to our dreams, because fashion is one of the fields we are serious about in the future. And fashion is an industry, too.
I don’t know if I expressed enough, but I think you get the point with the parallelism I used.
Wearing clothes is not just something that’s trivial. It doesn’t make us shallow. Of course whatever we put on our fashion blogs, these are fashion related, but it doesn’t make us limited. It’s just that we dedicate this to our love for fashion.
————-Go pursue your dreams and passions. Even if people tell you you’re “chaka” or whatever, or that you’re not suited for the field you want, go on.
I think when you remove one’s passion from a person, it’s like figurative torture. You don’t want that. No one wants that. So please, respect.
I guess it all boils down to one thing: respecting subjectivity. And harmless subjectivity keeps life from being boring. Art in everything—including fashion—keeps the world interesting.
Sigh. I think I have already released 20% of what I feel O.o As much as I want to continue, I don’t want this to be an incoherent novel again. LOL. Better keep it a novelette. Chos! Til next time. :) Hihi. These, are my opinions, my words, okay? I am not imposing them :) I respect if you disagree. I’d love to know what you think :) Don’t worry, again, I respect opinions :) Teehee. God bless, dearies!